{"id":13629,"date":"2024-03-27T20:11:46","date_gmt":"2024-03-27T20:11:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wordoftheprincess.dreamhosters.com\/?p=13629"},"modified":"2024-05-06T19:51:13","modified_gmt":"2024-05-06T19:51:13","slug":"from-confusion-to-clarity-finding-fulfillment-in-love-and-family","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wordoftheprincess.dreamhosters.com\/?p=13629","title":{"rendered":"From Confusion to Clarity: Finding Fulfillment in Love and Family"},"content":{"rendered":"

One of the biggest causes of confusion in our society stems from a lack of knowledge about life.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The Perplexing Maze of Modern Life<\/h2>\n

On one hand, we have tons of knowledge and libraries of books but we stopped using them because we carry an encyclopedia around on our phones called Mr. Google. However, we lost the ability to ask the right questions because we don\u2019t get around to asking ourselves if we should learn more about life…and we don\u2019t get around to this question because we lost the sense that it was ever a question to begin with.<\/span><\/p>\n

We are terribly lost and confused and no one talks to us about it or shows us the way, and unfortunately, there are very few examples of people who have a happy life together\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Seeking Answers in Unlikely Places<\/h2>\n

Why does no one tell us what marriage is based on? No, I\u2019m not talking about fancy words like trust and love, etc\u2026.No, I\u2019m talking about reality\u2026Like give me real advice, don\u2019t give me words that I don\u2019t know the meaning of\u2026What is love? How is it going to affect my marriage? I will love for 2 years but what if it runs out? Then what? No, I\u2019m tired of it…Now I want real robust advice that will help me through years of unknown experiences that I\u2019m going to put myself through. I have no idea how to share a space with a person, how to share space with a person and a child\u2026.no one tells me about it. No real advice\u2026nothing \u2026 I don\u2019t want to hear about meditation and calming down\u2026I want something that keeps me sane and going for years and that makes me feel good, loved, and feel like loving back. I want to feel like a partner and I want success in family among many other things\u2026What is that?<\/span><\/p>\n

Understanding Love and Marriage<\/h2>\n

I was having this kind of conversation with myself many many years ago. Before my grandma died she used to have some conversations with me about real life\u2026what to do when this comes to your life or that\u2026Maybe that is the reason that I\u2019m truly skilled when it comes to life\u2026because I had her, even if only for a little while, but she was able to plant some seeds in me to help me grow into a person who can now help others\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Looking around I see lots of people who are totally confused, who don\u2019t know what to expect, and who are scared of getting into relationships not only because of their own trauma or trauma caused by their parents, but who have a lack of understanding of what relationships are. Their expectations are set so high that they collapse under their weight before even starting their life together\u2026.some look into your eyes and ask, \u201cIs it the way you expected it would be?\u201d Others look on in disbelief that it\u2019s even possible and ask how I did it\u2026what to do first, then what came second\u2026.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lessons From the Wise<\/h2>\n

I have a piece of advice for all of you. It is a very simple answer to many of the struggles for couples and it\u2019s simple to achieve, takes lots of pressure off, puts gender roles in their correct places, calms everyone down, and competition lowers to zilch. Happiness and satisfaction and the rate of achievement will get higher every day. I can tell you every single family that has implemented this has been on an upward trajectory of happiness since they began, but I must tell you from the get-go that it is not easy, especially if you are used to a messy life…but with a little stubborn effort, you\u2019ll get there in no time\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Here is the secret word\u2026ready? Organization. The key to a successful family is organization. I\u2019m not talking about cleaning the house or organizing dishes\u2026no I\u2019m talking about organization between partners. Before you get married or right now if you are married and have problems, you have to sit down and talk about who does what:<\/span><\/p>\n

Who is responsible for the dishes? Who is responsible for making the bed? Who is responsible for paying the mortgage, electricity, trash, schools for kids etc? Who is responsible for travel? Who is responsible for leisure? Who is responsible for laundry? Who is responsible for groceries? And etc\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

The Transformative Power of Clarity and Communication<\/h2>\n

Make a list of all the things that you have in your life and go over it with your partner and assign each of these to either yourself or your partner. I\u2019m not saying that if you are responsible for dishes your partner can\u2019t help\u2026no, of course, he can help you but you\u2019ll be in charge…he can ask if you need help or you can ask for help but there will be always one who is in charge of making a final decision on a specific topic. Once you go like that for a bit you\u2019ll see things are getting easier in your family and you get more things done. There won\u2019t be a subject to fight about, there won\u2019t be a subject to outdo your partner with, there won\u2019t be a subject to bicker about…everyone would have their own responsibilities and that is what makes our lives work best if we only mind our own business, give it a try. You\u2019ll be amazed at the outcome you\u2019ll get.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>