How many of you think that you are the primary driver on a road with thousands of cars? How many of you think that you are better drivers than the person in the car next to you?
\nI\u2019ve driven in many countries and only here in the states am I constantly smiling on the road because of the interactions between drivers. If you get used to being present, observant, and calm, you may see how human comedy and tragedy is at play on the road, as well as maybe even a psychological lesson.
\nI\u2019ve been bringing many different examples to you in order to help better explain certain points of view. Here I go again; read this article, sit back, relax and imagine yourself in the car driving with all those drivers that you perceive as \u201ccrazy\u201d. I want to start with a proposition of them being \u201ccrazy\u201d from your standpoint.<\/p>\n
Now, I\u2019m going to bring the relationship aspect to it. When you choose to be in a relationship it is as though you are on a freeway where there are certain rules. In order to avoid crashing into each other, you should follow those rules. Many of us are okay following rules without crashing but once in awhile a person does something we perceive as incorrect, we get angry or call them crazy or some other situation unfolds. Why do you think you don\u2019t look crazy to others? Do you think that you are normal? I will tell you a secret…none of us normal. You know why? There is no such thing as normalcy. What\u2019s normal and who defines it? So, if you choose to be in a relationship, be prepared to embrace a person with all her\/his twists and turns.
\nNext question I\u2019ll ask you is when a driver, say, speeds up and makes a light that you wanted to make but didn\u2019t because you hesitated or got scared, what do you do?<\/p>\n
When you are in relationships, how many of you want to be a certain partner? What do you say if a partner wants you to be a certain way that you\u2019re not? Would you like it? If you are not the partner that he or she wants you to be, resulting in your partner yelling and getting angry with you…would you like that? If you don\u2019t like it, then why are you being extremely controlling and possessive of another person, especially since you wouldn\u2019t like being in that position yourself? Who gave you the right to behave in such a way with another person? Do you own that person? Does that person own you? No. So, let them be the way he or she is. Let your partner speed up when she or he needs to. Let your partner do his thing without having YOUR high expectations get in the way. Bring safety to your relationships so every one can feel secure and not scolded or punished. Let both you and your partner be your true-selves and you\u2019ll see huge benefits of it later.
\nNow, if a driver is driving at a high speed on a line that doesn\u2019t exist, but violates the rules, bringing harm to anyone besides himself, would he need to be stopped?<\/p>\n
In a relationship, one person can be more successful in something than the other. Or one can move toward one\u2019s goals faster then another. That speed might be triggered by something we don\u2019t necessarily know but react to. How do you react? Get angry? Become competitive? Do something to prevent your partner from succeeding? Make your partner feel guilty for something because his absence is required for him to succeed? Yelling at your partner, telling him how miserable you are or pouring out some other emotions because you can\u2019t handle another person doing something that you don\u2019t have guts to do?
\nThose are a few comparisons that give you another way of looking and enjoying our lovely LA traffic. This hopefully gives you food for thought when it comes to your readiness to have relationships or master a relationship you may already have.
\nA good relationship is a road with unexpected turns, with hills and downhills that we sometimes don\u2019t know about. It\u2019s a road that sometimes gets dirty because of rain that has just passed or because of its own conditions that we didn\u2019t know about before. Here we\u2019re required to learn how to drive a particular way with a particular set of skills in order to drive through this road successfully. When this happens, we must be open to listen and learn from another person in the car or see what the other driver is doing and simply repeat or turn on logic or open our heart. It all requires us to stay present and never judge others or ourselves; simply mind your own business. What do you think will happen if you are driving on a road you haven\u2019t ridden before and someone on Facebook told you that they heard that that road is impossible to drive and not worth it?
\nIf you drive- you won\u2019t make it -period, no one made it so far. So you think you have courage to drive? I doubt it… my point here is mind your own business when you are in relationship or about to have one. Make sure you know what YOU want to have in your life or what you are looking for. Stick with it-period. Don\u2019t waste your dreams and desires on other people\u2019s Instagram or Facebook pictures, they are that are NOT REAL life. Mind your own business. Clear your goals, take down fences, open your heart (don\u2019t waste time, sharing your dream with other people. They won\u2019t encourage you but discourage) and drive your own road…. trust me, YOU WILL MAKE IT!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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