Holding someone and being held gives comfort to both sides \u2014 have you ever thought about it? It gives comfort to who holds you as if it were some sort of shelter, and it\u2019s a way of saying\u00a0I\u2019m here with you<\/em>. To the other party who holds, it sends the message of\u00a0let me offer you some co<\/em>mfort<\/em>. Both are tremendously important for both parties, but how many of us actually realize that?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n If we truly realized that, do you think we\u2019d use it for our own benefit? You\u2019re going to ask me what I mean, and I\u2019ll tell you right now. How many of us, when comforting another person, think of\u00a0ourselves\u00a0<\/em>as being superior because\u00a0we\u00a0<\/em>are the ones offering that support and assurance? Our ego gets a boost. Some might think that we are in a superior position because a friend is \u201cneedy\u201d. That term, in today\u2019s society, conveys connotations of being\u00a0weak and wrong, but is that really bad? What\u2019s wrong with being vulnerable?<\/p>\n How many people do you know that can honestly tell you that they want to be held and feel connected to? That they are frustrated, angry, or fearful? How many? I bet, at most, it\u2019s one person. That person deserves a lot of respect for it.<\/p>\n Many of us who respond to the question \u2013 \u201chow are you?\u201d, with \u201cI\u2019m great\u201d. But is that true? Many of those who claim to be \u201cgreat\u201d, come home from work just to start TV-binging, looking for comfort, or may even start drinking, looking for that same comfort.<\/p>\n I\u2019m sure you\u2019re saying \u2013 \u2018you described ways we seek comfort from another person, but how can someone help give\u00a0themselves comfort?\u2019 The answer I offer you seems difficult at first, but once you do it and repeat it a hundred times, it becomes easier.<\/p>\n For instance, if you come home and feel angry, recognize what you\u2019re feeling. Then acknowledge it by going to the mirror and telling yourself: I am angry. Say it to the mirror, then start repeating how angry you are. Maybe raise your voice by barking and yelling about how angry you are\u2026you get the gist of it, right?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Once you feel that you\u2019ve done enough of that \u2014 indication would be an emptiness inside \u2014 you might cry. I would say simply cry it out, let yourself feel angry, and live out those emotions for as long as you need. Turn off your phone, don\u2019t talk to anyone.\u00a0Just\u00a0live it out.<\/em>\u00a0Not long after, you\u2019ll feel slightly better and happier. More importantly, you won\u2019t have any of those negative emotions stored inside of you that\u2019ll just poison you in the long run.<\/p>\n Each one of us has a tremendous amount of different emotions that we experience daily. Many of us may carry negative feelings from our childhood. Instead of working through these feelings, we tend to internalize them, feel miserable, and not know how to change them. No one stops to think about\u00a0how<\/em>\u00a0they can make their life better, and\u00a0why<\/em>\u00a0they feel such misery.<\/p>\n Somewhere in this world, hundreds of people are experiencing the same feeling like you at this very moment. Secondly, we need to put a\u00a0real<\/em>\u00a0name for this feeling. Is it anger? Doubt? Happiness? Thirdly, let yourself feel this to the fullest, even if this means crying your eyes out for three hours. If you need to be sad for an entire day and experience the whole nine yards \u2013 then don\u2019t be afraid to do so.<\/p>\n After doing this for several weeks, or even months, see how your life changes. You may feel more relaxed, calm, or even less negative. You\u2019ll be able to identify what\u2019s going on inside you and give yourself the support and care\u00a0you<\/em>\u00a0need. Only\u00a0we<\/em>\u00a0can give ourselves total and complete support.<\/p>\n If we would learn to help our mind and soul go through life-challenging events, through means of our own individual support, many of us would become mentally and emotionally healthier. Let\u2019s say you had developed a problem from trying to find comfort elsewhere \u2013 a drinking problem. After you learn how to fully comfort and love yourself from within, you\u2019ll find yourself with no need to find \u201ccomfort\u201d from a drink or other unhealthy habits.<\/p>\n At the end of the day, all of us want to be happier and healthier. If only we knew how important self-care and support it. Maybe this is the first step to a full realization that life is simple and we must accept ourselves and our emotions within it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" A couple of events happened the other day that triggered me to first \u2013 ponder, and second \u2013 write this article. The day I was bathing my son and suddenly, he started to slip from my hand. The bathtub was slippery and I couldn\u2019t quite catch him steady enough, so I tried to find some balance. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":12413,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[81],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12410","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-life"],"yoast_head":"\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/wordoftheprincess.dreamhosters.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/couple-260899_1280-800x533.jpg\")
<\/p>\nPEOPLE HAVE INVENTED THOUSANDS OF WAYS TO BE DISHONEST WITH THEMSELVES. ALL THOSE LIES LEAD TO HIDDEN PAINS, FAILURES IN LIFE, AS WELL AS A FEAR OF LIVING.<\/strong><\/h2>\n
ONE SHOULD LEARN TO COMFORT THEMSELVES AT ANY GIVEN TIME. WE NEED TO LEARN HOW TO LET FEELINGS GO, LIVE THROUGH THOSE FEELINGS, AND NOT TO BLAME OURSELVES FOR THEM.<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nFIRSTLY, WE NEED TO REALIZE THAT WHATEVER FEELINGS WE ARE EXPERIENCING IN THE MOMENT ARE OKAY.<\/h2>\n